Heterosexism in ESL: Examining Our Attitudes
Cynthia Nelson
This article is Cynthia Nelson is describing a speech that was delivered at the 26th annual TESOL convention. The first attitude talks about how gay teachers are also teachers too, and asks what the big deal is. The author goes in to the issues of firing teachers for being gay, hate crimes, and the lack of civil rights that gays have. These issues still affect gay teachers when they walk into a classroom, the author says, they are not able to leaves these issues at the door. This is what some gay and lesbian teachers do though, they walk into a classroom or office and try to hide who they are. The second attitude is that being a gay teacher should never come up in the classroom. The author discusses the questions that arise in the classroom about marriage, and the fact that all the students want to know about their teachers lives. She talks about how she does not reveal her identity as a lesbian to her students, and when her class once had a discussion about lesbians, even then she did not say anything. Attitude three discusses that students from countries that do not have many gay people could not handle discussing homosexuality. The author discusses that in other countries gay people have even less rights that in America, and are sometimes killed for being gay. Although this is true, she says that there are gay people in every country. She talks about how her students have talked about gay people in class and have even written about them, she says that they are aware. In attitude four the subject is that they are making an issue out of nothing, and that there are many gay men in ESL. Nelson says here that we are not making an issue out of nothing, but that she as a lesbian, has felt very isolated and this issue needs to be addressed. In attitude five the issue is about not talking about gays. She talks about how she has never heard a straight colleague talk about a gay issue first, she brings it up. She says that heterosexuals should talk about these issues, they have to become involved in the struggle for rights too. Attitude six discusses gay students. She talks about the issue of gay students feeling safe in the classroom, if the subject matter is something they would feel comfortable talking about, and so on. Nelson says that we need to give all students a good education. Attitude seven says that "Only gay people can address gay issues." (Nelson 149) She talks about gay people needing help in their struggle for equal rights. They need the people of authority, heterosexuals, to start caring about the issues.
The chapter in book discusses the identity of a man or woman who is gay. This makes me think of a friend of mine in South Korea. He was also a teacher at the same chain of schools I worked for, we had the same recruiter, and he actually trained me. He was openly gay to his fellow teachers, our recruiter, but none of the heads of the school. On the weekends he also worked at a gay bar. He never told the owner of the school or the head of his particular branch. He would actually go out with the owner of the school with women. He took this so far that he actually married a lesbian to disguise being gay to the owner. I feel that this changed his identity in some ways. He is still certain that if he tells the owner they will fire him. He has worked at the school for five or six years now and believes the prejudice is so strong they will still fire him. The parents will not want their students being taught by him and so on. He still has this secret and is not ready to tell them because he is certain he will be sent home. This is an issue that we need to discuss. Nelson is right when she says that heterosexuals need to be active in gay rights. Heterosexuals can help the cause in a very positive way.